Remembering our beloved JejeMaa and fond childhood memories on the quarter century of her passing away.
The Shraddh of our grandparents is performed by our parents at home as well as in our ancestral village every year. The Shraddh of our grandfather JejeBapa falls on the tithi of Vinayaka Chaturthi every year. JejeBapa was born in the year 1900 and passed away in 1976 when he was attacked by a bull while he was working in our agricultural field in the native village Amara (near Haldipada) in the coastal district of Balasore, Odisha. He was a farmer and the eldest of four brothers. The angry young man of his times, he was very strict. He was the only brother who chose to stay in the village then. The rest three of his brothers moved out of our village Amara for further studies and subsequently bagged coveted jobs in Railways and Police services after their schooling at Bagha Jatin High School, Amara. Though he was hospitalized, he passed away on Chaturthi night. Our father was in Class X then. JejeBapa left behind his wife and small children. Our grandmother JejeMaa was quite young then. Most of our Piusis were small kids then. Nobody was an active earning member in our family. It was such a struggle period, as our father recollects sometimes. But our JejeMaa was a strong positive lady who singlehandedly raised all the kids by the dint of hard work and wisdom. Over the years, our father completed graduation, moved out of Balasore, joined a project under Amul in Gujarat, came back to the state dairy cooperative in Bhubaneswar in 1982, and became the first earning member of the huge family. Our mother joined the same office in Bhubaneswar much later.
I was raised by JejeMaa for quite some time in our native village Amara as a small baby. Since we were twins and our mother was working, my sister was with my parents in Bhubaneswar. JejeMaa addressed us - Chua, mostly Kali and Gori. We are very fond of our native village. It is very beautiful. Though I resemble my grandmother, only a few of us could inherit her tall gait. Clad in a comfortable Sambalpuri light cotton saree in our typical Odia style paired with a white blouse, she looked elegant. JejeMaa lived with us most of the time. She was an excellent cook. Fondly addressed BadaMaa by many, most of us miss her cooking till today. She enjoyed picking both of us up from school every day. She was a huge fan of Shaktimaan. Three of us used to watch that religiously every Saturday afternoon and its repeat telecast on Tuesday night. She was very fond of street side chat and gupchup. JejeMaa loved buying Singada, Bara, and green chilies daily for us while picking us up from school so that Kali and Gori would have that with Mudhi and sauce. Anytime she gave my sister and me any money, we would put it in our two separate piggy banks. Finally, we contributed that money to Kargil's war collections at our school.
'Jhada-Bantiya' was JejeMaa's typical cuss word when anybody pissed her off. My sister and I would straight away take our complaints as kids to her if our parents did not understand us. JejeMaa was a very progressive lady and loved our mother like anything. JejeMaa believed in helping everyone, no matter how much distress she would be in. She looked after farming, fish ponds, and the animal husbandry aspects of our ancestors in Amara for the longest time. She loved maintaining our cow shed and the dairy cows. She had maintained a kitchen garden in our village backyard. She ensured feeding everybody visiting her home with water-soaked Bhuja, curd, Bhaja, and Chennachur, if not anything, including the daily wage workers. Even today, many in Amara say "BadaMaa kahaku khali petare chaddi beni" (She never lets anybody leave home on an empty stomach).
Though most Balasorias are not fond of Dalma, my mother's Dalma was her favourite. Our mother and Aae used to remember JejeMaa whenever they sat together. She was actually a God-sent angel for our mother to save her from life-threatening bleeding due to retained placenta after her parturition. Our mother had a tough time delivering her twins. With no doctors around at odd hours, and no money at hand in the hospital, my father was away on duty during heavy rains, and in her presence of mind, she kept on swabbing the bundle of gauge for blood to absorb and the light of the operation theatre to prevent further infection till the doctor arrived. Our mother was given a second life by her, as Aae puts it. Aae remembered 'Mo Balasore Samuduni bhalia au kehi nuha' (There is nobody like my Balasoria friend).
Being staunchly religious, JejeMaa's health deteriorated due to regular fasting even in old age. Remembering the time, when she became very emaciated due to hepatic cancer and gallbladder stones, she had to walk with a supporting stick but would still wait for us at Sailashree Vihar Chhak at 4:30 pm to come back from school. She loathed the high-dose medicines as they got her skin rashes. That made her restless. Anybody who paid her visit to Bhubaneswar at our home at that time in Sailashree Vihar could notice her smile through her debilitated yellow eyes and scanty hair. As kids, we would see her bath on holidays and enjoy it. She wanted to live more but unfortunately could not. Since Amara was her first love, later on, when she was critical with fatal jaundice leading to cancer and undergoing treatment in Bhubaneswar, she pleaded to be left in the village for her last days. A few weeks later, she passed away peacefully in our village. Having seen Shri Biju Patnaik's, the Chief Minister of Odisha then, last rights on television performed in Swarga Dwar Puri on 17 April 1997, she had requested the same for her cremation. Two years later on the exact date and Rukmini Amavasya tithi, this was fulfilled by our father and other relatives when she passed away on 17 April 1999. We were in third standard then.
Our father and Piusis claim that had Maa and Ba would have been alive, they would have been the happiest to see their grandchildren prosper today. One of our dear BadaMaa puts it in light humour of writing a book on 'Amara ru America' someday since most of our family and extended families have flourished with many settled abroad now. Having seen so much early in her life, she was the epitome of compassion, empathy, and strength. Twenty-five years later, her soul lives in us in our values, identities, and the memories created in our family functions. Even after so many years, she still stands as a source of inspiration for the villagers and our family. Just like her name Sabitrimani Mohapatra, she was simple, pious, and the jewel of our family.
We love you Jejemaa.
We miss you immensely!!
